I, In Season

Into I go




My hands shook while I lit the candles.

My legs are weak today. I am content even as I am questioning my path. Darkened even as theirs is lit with incense ash and purple, pink, white wax. The sparkle in my step is in the colored foil and the jelly beans and gummy rolls, the trolls and pink hair and little ghosts and bows and stickers and lipstick and glitter. Together we squeal, building our castle kingdom in the gold tree. I can nearly hear her tongue ring click against her teeth as she laughs. That gorgeous close crop of hair, tight against her neck, and so I set out plenty of of my favorite hair clips.
She is in the wind tonight. Reflecting in the silvered skull ring, minty glee in the peppermint schnapps. The wax folds upon itself and evaporates and still they burn, hot and lasting.

Already such a wild child at an age so young and ripe, but her heart was soft and true and right.

She left my life in April of the year I was thirteen, and only a few months prior I found an unexpected counterpart, a sister, the best friend I didn't know I needed, a strange and unprecedented love that I did not, could not find in another. Exit one spirit, enter another.
Sweet blonde bubble of joy and laughter, and through her and our friendship the process began, I very slowly and painfully began learning how to love myself. She was my my brightest lights, my darkest secrets, the ache of the growing pains in web of bones that ached for affinity to infinity. She helped heal through fulfilling, filling, building previously unrecognized and unrealized desires and fears and dreams.

Sometimes I am so taken aback by these beautiful cycles,
when everything seems to wind and twist into labyrinths and then suddenly a moment of awareness pricks your new in season skin and you see it has circled back around and joined with itself.

And she was what I subscribed to, the only confidante I surrended myself to and with, and
one day I woke up broken. I woke up and found I had sacrificed myself for the sake of that surrender, I had lost what it meant to be me. I didn't know what was most mine, my own, and no one elses....not hers, and not one of many his. Just mine, mine for me to realize and then share the way it was meant to be shared, not spread too wide and thin or stretched near snapping. Not painted black,
I painted over the colors with black and told myself I was proud of what I had created, that the
smoky charcoal was the truth. I trusted that truth and then the black choked me, morphed overnight into handcuffs that bound me to her bed and my own fear and hatred of myself.

A beloved twin, my altar ego, but it is change that is the oldest of all friends and the most ancient of truths. The spirit took flight and I opened my eyes to a world that did not include her flaxen mystery, her companionship. She was no more in the golden tree, it was only Cody and me, I was back to my roots and with a change of name and a couple choice betrayals (fierce yet blessed), her halo became a stranger. I found forgiveness the second time around, but only through walking away, letting go. Circles may always come back around, but sometimes, when direction is hazy and obscure, forward movment must be forced until you find your own footing.

And around the same time we both bowed out, I began to trust the tide, I allowed change to pull me out to sea; there in the water, in the womb of the world, I swam and swam and swam until my bronchi nearly popped with capacity to love and hurt. I swam deeper until I built up the strength to push past the sting of breath, the fear of depths. There at the bottom, I found not one, but two more soulmates. Two best friends lost, swallowed into the stretch and cold breadth of endlessness, and two much stronger bonds were discovered, forged there in the flowing waters. I found them like treasure on the banks, on the ocean floor, with lungs of life and eyes the likes of sands of time that only exist in dreams.

You will never hear me denying there is a design, everything happens in season, even the ones most seemingly devoid of reason.

It is never long that I question what I am fighting for.











And as I finally blow out the flickering flames, running only on their own fumes of recollection,
I'm curious as to where the stuffed tiger is now- perhaps keeping sweet Seal company in the thereafter. Another life, another time.


But for the grace of God, go I.





Happy Halloween, Feliz November,
Merry Día de los Muertos



for Cody